What Works
What works for me may not work every one else. What works for others may not work for me.
I’ve told myself “I can make this work,” or “Under the right circumstance, I can make anything work (for me).” Those sayings don’t feel as honest as they used to. Sure, it’s a nice mantra- it appreciates what’s there, and all that’s great and good. But I think that more than not, I ‘ve been using it as a way to water down my feelings of success, just making it an objective plateau, treating happiness like it needs to be more accessible than honest to goodness cool and fun/what I actually want to be doing….
It’s as if, for a long time, I haven’t allowed myself to set any goals that require much change or convincing- It’s as if everything-as-it-is and may-be will always just have to be good enough.
But how constructive is it to not even acknowledge the possibilities and potential of what will actually be… the situation PLUS me and all that I have to offer/bring and also all that I generally need to work with. Adapting to a situation isn’t integrating myself, it’s setting myself aside so I don’t risk anything. This “whatever will work” is a total cop out, a very agreeable and easy cop out.
This is a digital painting by Marilyn Sholin, worked from a photo taken here in Asheville
Those feet are on a car’s dashboard, the window is cracked, the reflection is in the windshield. I think it’d be good for me to try and write another entry on What Works in Asheville (as far as I can tell), and I’d like to figure out what works besides relaxing. Right now, something that is really workin for me is this band Noah and the Whale, their song “Shape of My Heart.” It’s very cute and true. What could be better than that?
Feels good to be working on this blog again.
xo,
Jenny
Very astute. The phrase “I can make this work” rarely comes true. Instead, make your dreams work for you.